Week one review

So, how did my first week home with Emmett by myself and Crys's first week back to work go? All in all, pretty good. I mean, I managed to blog every day, on Wednesday and Friday it meant giving up a shower when Emmett decided to nap less than normal. But that's my own fault. Shower first, blog later. Lesson learned for next week.

Emmett is as sweet and adorable as ever. There were very few moments where I felt completely overwhelmed by him or the prospect of caring for him by myself for most of the day. There were a few days he didn’t sleep very much and needed more attention than usual. That was a little difficult but we made it through just fine.

My relationship with Crys is taking a bit of a hit though. We aren’t bickering like we were last week. That’s easier to deal with. Crys feels a bit neglected. I feel a bit resentful that she feels neglected when we have an infant to care for. Crys feels like she doesn't get enough time with Emmett but at the same time wants some time to herself in the evenings. I feel like I'm not getting any time to myself at all.

Before she went to bed last night, we had a discussion about her frustration. It concerns me a little. When Crys gets it in her head that she can't do something she gives up completely. Its a habit she has that drives me crazy, but we get around it. I have plenty of bad habits myself. Right now she feels like she isn't a very good mother. This isn't something she can just give up on. She knows that and is trying to deal with it. I'm having trouble being as encouraging as I should be, but all things considered, I think that’s understandable. I suggested counseling. She had to see a counselor before we got pregnant to sort out a few issues. It wouldn't hurt for her to go back just to help with the adjustment period. Actually, it probably wouldn't hurt for us to go together. I might start encouraging her a little more enthusiastically if she doesn't decide on her own to go.

Like I said, all in all this week has gone pretty well. Every couple has issues when they have a new baby so I’m not worried about our problems right now. We’re both committed to raising Emmett and doing it together. There are just a few bumps in the road. These certainly aren’t the first bumps for us and certainly won’t be the last.